Last week, while in my garage gathering tools for working in my yard, I heard the sound of a bee buzzing. Interpreting the buzz as angry, I made haste from the garage as I am allergic to bee stings. A few days later, I found the bee dead on the table in the garage and realizing my mistake, tears sprung to my eyes.
In your daily life, in your relationships and love, in your longing to live your wild and precious gift of life….where are you misunderstanding an emotion? Here are suggestions for updating your relationship with your emotions:
- Anger is an emotion that has gotten a bad rap and an emotion often used to cover other, more vulnerable, emotions. Where do you use anger to cover other emotions or to diminish your intimacy with others? (Mmm….)
- What emotions scare you-in yourself and when expressed by others? What scares you about this emotion? What do you believe would happen if you simply let yourself feel emotion instead of controlling your emotions?
- Where do you find yourself hijacked by your response to other people’s emotions-otherwise known as reacting? Ask yourself if reacting to the other person somehow keeps you safe, for often our reactions stem from our need to be safe or in control.
- What we consider safe at one stage of life will change with time and learning from our experiences in life. What reactions to emotions of yours are old hat and need to be updated? (Hint-they are the ones where you don’t feel better after you react).