“The Value of Being Uncomfortable”

Conscious relationship with our creativity as human beings requires we have times when we are uncomfortable, we are not in control, we do not know. And what are these times other than opportunities to welcome the magic, power, and wisdom of new experiences being offered to us?  Whenever life now throws a curveball into my plans, I take out the index cards I have written ”welcome the discomfort, life has a better idea!” on and post them in places I spend my day. Besides quotes on index cards for inspiration in responding to being uncomfortable in life, here are other suggestions for valuing “uncomfortable”:

  • Make a list of things in your past that made you inititally uncomfortable and how now, you can not imagine living without them….swimming, driving, traveling, saying no, etc.  Acknowledge consciously how hanging in with uncomfortable long enough to learn something new changed your life for the better.
  • Ask yourself if your life is overflowing with joy, love, satisfaction and if you did not answer with a shout and  ”YES!”,  choose more to invite the discomfort of change for creating more of that good stuff sooner than later!  Maybe keeping things safe and status quo ain’t what it’s cracked up to be!
  • Western science has confirmed what Eastern wisdom has long offered-how every 7 years,  every cell in our body is replaced.  This has revolutionized how we treat brain and spinal cord injuries-once thought to be untreatable-as well as underlined the important of challenge for the health of our brains, muscles, and habits as we age.  It may be uncomfortable to place ourselves outside our comfort zone, and, it is essential for our happiness and health in life.
  • Unless we are willing to be uncomfortable in life,  we will not engage the conflicts that lead to invaluable clarity, understanding, and intimacy in our relationships.  Relationships thrive when people are willing to be (uncomfortable) vulnerable and wither when the illusion of control is chosen.  Relationships are the training ground for choosing love more than fear, intuition more than facts, intimacy more than a false sense of control.
  • Consider that when you are most uncomfortable, it may simply be the sensations of yourself expanding, not unlike how it may feel to a snake when it has outgrown it’s skin.  When I am feeling uncomfortable in my life, I now remind myself to breathe more, relax more, and allow more the sensations of transition for an easier and faster delivery of change to emerge within myself! 

Life and people are messy and both require a willingness to take risks, to be vulnerable, to be uncomfortable for real.izing their depth, dimension, and delight. Choosing not to confuse being uncomfortable with “something’s wrong/someone’s wrong offers us a richer, wider palette of experiences from life. When we are willing to be uncomfortable and engage life’s offer of a better idea, we live more the magic, and merry, and miraclulous of our life!

Simple…. Make Love with Your Life

Here in New England, we are beginning the seasonal descent into less sunlight and more darkness while also entering the busy season of  holidays.  Our bodies may want to curl up more on the couch in front of the fireplace while our social self pulls us in the opposite direction of more activity and interactions.  How do we manage this seesaw of our needs and our world?  It is simple really….make love with your life.

We have all been taught to distrust the unknown, to be afraid of what we do not control, and to not give power to the unseen. And while we are biologically wired for physical survival, we are wired as well for exquisite partnership with the sacred…..the partnership at the foundation of art, of creativity, of thriving as a human being….the beauty that reveals itself when we choose to trust Life enough to make love with our life.

As with many matters simple, it may not be easy, but what delight we real.ize when we make love with our life, when we allow ourself to open up to what Life brings for our experience and awareness,  our unique expression to be shared,  our real.ization and our creation. Our life wants nothing more-and nothing less-from us than for us to make love with it and to realize the sacred partnership of the physical and the infinite, the seen and the unseen, the known and the unknown…for this is how we create that which we do not even know is possible to create…and is this not the call of our times and world?