I have come to appreciate how love in relationships need more than the emotion of love for happiness and success in love to last. When working in India in my 20’s, I looked upon their tradition of arranged marriages as lacking the romance of love. My learning and the wisdom of my own experiences has taught me differently. The emotion of love is a verb, which means love needs action to tend and care for it. The actions of caring and tending of love I call the business of love and while I get a few wrinkled noses at putting the words business and love in the same sentence, noses relax and heads nod instead when I explain what I mean.
I know talking about the business of love can feel….well, kinda anti-love. And, learning about the nature and needs of women and men, the ages and stages of relationship, is required learning for creating happy and successful contemporary relationships vs relying on the defaults you’ve been handed by those you love. Love requires not only talking about what you want and don’t like, love requires your conscious courage, commitment, and clarity in action.