Boundaries Are Not Optional For Happiness in Love and Life
People are often curious how I went from being an architect to being a mediator to now helping people feel empowered to make things in their life better. I tell them that it’s been an evolution from creating spaces for people to helping people create space for themselves in their life. And, doing so begins with creating boundaries that reflect one’s worth and what they are seeking in life and love.
I’m Not A Fan Of You Being So Nice
One of the common threads of the smart, capable people I work with is a childhood in which a parent would threaten or withhold love for having the child behave as the parent wanted. No, these are not childhoods where deprivation or poverty was present; quite the opposite.
Life’s Edges Are Where Things Get Better
I’ve been working on updating my website over the winter and while it’s a work in progress, it’s beginning to come together. One of my favorite sections is the Gratitude section where people share their thoughts after making something important to them, better. I have deep respect for the people who make a choice to commit their faith, time, and courage to creating desired change in their life.
Are You The Author of The Story Of Your Life?
I work with smart, competent people who often don’t feel so competent or smart in a relationship they are struggling with. Often they have worked with traditional therapy to no avail and are looking elsewhere for help. They often mistake feeling challenged by the state of the relationship as a judgment of themselves and their worthiness. Yet nothing could be further from the truth as within all challenges is the invitation to realize more of who one is and is truly capable of.
Bye Bye Being Nice and Hello Fierce Compassion
First off, appreciation to the people who have responded to my newsletters with questions seeking more clarity about what the power of their presence is. Being curious and asking questions are under-rated actions for getting more of what you want in life. One of the questions I received was whether the power of presence is anything like being mindful. My response was yes, and, more so. While mindfulness is the practice of being with the present moment, the power of your presence is being congruent with what is true for you in your words, actions, and choices. When you engage the power of your presence, you will not need to say as much, do as much, and yet will realize more of what you seek. Your presence, whether spoken, written, or through your actions, is the power created through your alignment, your integrity with your deepest values and truths.
The Power of Your Presence And Your Legacy
What do I mean by your legacy? While we may consider a person’s legacy to involve money, a person’s legacy is larger than their financial worth. Legacy includes what you accomplish as well as the impact you have with the people you intersect with in life. Legacy in the simplest terms is the story of your life… the dragons you slay, the love you offer, and the faith in yourself and life you lived.
When Conflict Shows Up, Bring On Your Power and Presence
As promised, today’s article is about how showing up with the power of your presence when conflict arises will create outcomes better than avoiding conflict. Conflict seems to be universally feared, the irony being that in order to avoid conflict,...
What’s Your Relationship With Your Power and Presence?
Expanding on what I call “the power of your presence” which is a way of holding and engaging power differently that the dominant model of power-over and power through fear. When I am working with someone seeking change in their life, we work with...