It’s Valentine’s Day next week and the pressure is on! There are those who hate this holiday due to not being in a romantic relationship (or being in an unhappy marriage). Learning to love yourself at least as much as the love you give others is not selfish, but a smart way to care for yourself and those you love. Being in the business of helping people be happy in their life and relationships, I wish I had a nickel for every time a person got mad at someone because they were insisting that person be their only venue of love. Talk about performance pressure! And complicating the matter is how often the designated lover was in the same “waiting for love” game with them as well. Lots of needing love and not much giving love.
But here’s the truth-you can’t give what you don’t have and without your loving yourself, you are offering a conditional form of love. But why wait for it from another person who may or may not be able to give you just what you want? Love is not a commodity, it is a mystical marathon and perhaps the hardest choice to honor in a world which mistakes love for a commodity. Join me as I share how love is the most powerful choice you can make, but you will need to love yourself first for receiving what love truly offers.